“Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” – Jack Canfield
The fear of failure is a cockroach. A giant cockroach, and the toughest one you will ever likely need to kill. But kill it you must. The fear of failure is the biggest reason why so many great minds and great ideas are wasted, forever.
There are two types, the most common fear of failure, and then the type that I suffer from…
In this article I’m going to address the most common one, which is – being too scared to try something in case it doesn’t work out. The underlying reason is, you don’t want to look like a fool in front of peers, colleagues, friends and family.
I’m sorry but that is pathetic. Why, oh why, give any remote shit about other people’s opinions?
Negative opinions only come from losers. Strong statement, but think about it – have you ever been told you shouldn’t pursue something by someone much more successful than yourself?
I haven’t. Only by the losers that I’ve unfortunately listened to from time to time. Losers who are scared of you succeeding because it will make them look and feel even more irrelevant than they already are.
If you suffer from this fear of failure you need to ask yourself:
- Why am I allowing myself to be judged, and controlled, by people with no track record of success, a complete lack of ambition, and often, even a cavalier attitude towards actually trying something new?
- Am I OK with being 90 in 2077, and thinking shit – I wish I hadn’t listened to Ron in the pub in 2017? Ron was a fucking loser!
- Am I OK with the deep, gut-wrenching feeling that I will have to deal with for the rest of my life because I didn’t develop the balls to even try and fulfil my ambitions?
I have massive respect for people who have failed dramatically, especially if they have failed in the public eye, and then just got back on the horse and carried on. Huge respect.
This is the mark of a real winner, someone who will persevere, regardless of small-minded ridicule, financial setbacks and perhaps even the loss of a wife or two!
Persistence always wins in the end.
“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill
It all starts by developing a mind-set to TRY, and the way you try is by DOING; regardless of the potential downside if there is enormous upside to be had.
And as the above rant explains, this isn’t just financial upside…
It is the ability to spend the rest of your life being happy with who you are, and with the impact that you’ve made. Rather than saddling the regret of what you could have been.
What do you want to tell your grandchildren — your successes or your excuses? What will your legacy be — nothing, or eveything? That is now up to you.
Next week we’ll look at my own fear of failure, which is the opposite of this one. To make sure you don’t miss this, or any future content – sign up to The Business of Life Club now by entering your email address in the right sidebar, or at the bottom of your mobile page!